Remember: You don’t need to succeed with this woman. (or any other woman)
I wanted to do this blog more than anything because I believe there are some very simple solutions to the issues surrounding how to attract women. These solutions aren’t necessarily ones I learned from Thundercat, Carlos Xuma or my personal favorite Tao of Badass.
Sure, all these resources have value in what they are telling us about having success with women. But I felt like my value to connect with you all (because we are on the same journey) would be in what I observed in myself during the process of improvement. A big law to attract the hot women we REALLY want which I believe believe strongly in is:
For Maximum Success and Attraction Power with Any Woman, Date Multiple Women at Once
I have three very important practical reasons you should not stop at meeting and getting to know 1, 2, 3 or even more women at once.
1. Despite how this is portrayed negatively or as perhaps dehumanizing: attracting women is a numbers game. Let me tell you first why it is ok to fully believe this. First, it is reality. There is no man that has power in seducing women who has not “struck out”.
He has the power he has because he deals in reality: you don’t know her and she doesn’t know you, so there is no way her willingness or unwillingness to get to know you beyond that first meeting can have anything to do with you.
The masters of attraction know this. So if it is a numbers game, why ever stop at 1? You can’t, simply can’t know if a woman is right for you by one meeting. This is a sorry media myth which I believe is designed to get men to comform and do a lot of spending of money trying to “gain the favor” of one woman.
Bottom line: Real Attraction and Men Who Get it with the Hottest Women is not something you have to spend money on. More women: less money.
2. There is always power in options and power is attractive. When you don’t NEED to make a result with a particular woman, almost by magic you get the result you are seeking. The best way to not NEED a result with a woman is to have many options open.
Bottom line: You are only as powerful as your next available option and this is very true with starting out and meeting women.
3. It is only fair to the woman you are trying to seduce. If you get “oneitis” ( the irrational need to attract only one woman who you unfairly put on a pedestal) you are being totally unfair to the woman you are trying to attract. By placing all the pressure on one interaction and relationship early on, you are going to be unfairly judging a woman. Your expectations will always be too high. That’s not fair and it gets in the way of each of you really getting to know each other (the real you and the real her).
Bottom Line: Real Relationships with real people need to time to grow. I know the “Say Anything” school where men should sing outside a girl’s window after dark, but remember that’s the media’s portrayal with a definite agenda. That has nothing to do with real world attraction.
Other Valuable Information to Explore:
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/09/oneitis/all/1/ more great info on oneitis and how to avoid it. I like the one about how being overly focused on just one girl causes you to neglect getting to know other women.
http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/seductionfaq/Beginner/298.html going from scarcity to abundance is key in overcoming oneitis